There is No Such Thing as “Just a Cat”

“Pets come into our lives to teach us about love… they depart to teach us about loss. A new pet never replaces a lost pet, it merely expands our heart.”

At SafeHaven, we often get asked when is a good time to adopt after losing a beloved pet. While everyone handles a loss differently, there’s relative no definitive timeline for deciding when to get a new pet.

For Miranda Stedman, she didn’t think she would be ready anytime soon for a new cat after losing her cat Niblet on New Year’s Eve last year.

“After saying goodbye to her, we didn’t think we could open our hearts yet,” said Stedman.

Then Miranda’s grandmother passed away on March 4th, 2017. After already losing her beloved Niblet, this was just too much to handle so Miranda and her husband Michael decided it was time to adopt a new cat.

After arriving at SafeHaven, they visited the Cat Room and instantly fell in love with Nigel (named Root Beer at the time). Miranda held Nigel and after he reached out for Michael, they knew it was meant to be.

Unfortunately for the Stedmans, what should be a fairy tale ending has been anything but.

Since bringing Nigel home, he has faced infection after infection as well as slight incontinence while sleeping. After taking him to Oregon Veterinary Referral Associates in August, they finally got some answers.

Nigel needs a perineal urethrostomy (sometimes referred to as a ‘PU’), which is a surgery performed on male cats who have a urinary blockage or severe trauma to the penis. Without this surgery, Nigel will continue to suffer infections.

Miranda and Michael have started a fundraising campaign to help raise the funds for the surgery. Learn more about Nigel at

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